Nov 10
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“If you need something done you gotta do it yourself.” I am sure you have heard of this saying? Is this really true? Or does it come from someone with some control issues? 
It is funny how often people think this when they ask their spouse, children, helpers, colleagues, mother in law or friends to do something but it is never done in the way they want it. Of course it is not going to be same! Everyone is so different in their perspective of things, it is natural that each person will do things in their own way. Even the sense of urgency varies from person to person. What may be important to you is not going to be as important to someone else, even if you are intimate with that person.
Obviously one person cannot do everything themselves. That is not how the world is run. I think if everyone is open and have a level of acceptance of how everyone does things differently and at their own pace, and also be more clued in to the abilities of other people then asking the right person to help one out would work out better.
You can’t ask something who speaks only Chinese to write a good English letter and reprimand the person for being bad in English!
Ultimately people need to learn how to let go and learn how to ask the right person for help. And if there’s only one person who is available, don’t expect a masterpiece if the person is only in kindergarten.
Have a great day everyone!
Copyright 2010 Shamala Tan
